Being Selfish and it is okay…

Happy Thursday everyone! How has everyone been doing during this time at home? We had finally gotten into a pretty good rhythm and then it snowed……. The boys are content in the warm weather to spend hours outside but not in the snow! So I’m working on my attitude today.

I wanted to check in with all of you to see if you are getting your own time these days. For the first few weeks we were in survival mode and my personal time was non existent. I found myself feeling defeated, sad, and overwhelmed from the moment I woke up until the boys went to sleep at night. This is not normal but I couldn’t shake it. It wasn’t until Ethan mentioned that I hadn’t had a single moment alone since quarantine started that we realized why I was falling apart. That night I took my blanket and phone out to the porch swing and watched the rain for a good two hours. It was time that I was able to completely forget about what was going on in our home and focus solely on what I wanted to do. I reached out to friends and family to chat and had time to listen to my book. It was absolutely amazing and recharged my batteries. Since then, everyday, Ethan makes sure that I have alone time. It’s not the same time everyday, sometimes it might happen during nap time or after the boys go to bed. But I always feel better and I am able to be a much better mom and wife if I get my time.

This little man is like his momma. He needs his quiet time everyday.

It hasn’t always been easy in Ethan and I’s relationship to get this time, even before kids. I’m sure if you have met Ethan, you would understand that he is 100% a people person. He thrives on others energy and struggles to be by himself. Well, he married the polar opposite so it was very hard in the beginning of our relationship to get that time. I would feel awful for pushing him away and saying I needed time alone. I felt selfish and almost mean. But as the years have passed, he has been a great partner and continues to encourage me to take time for me.

Making racing tracks with anything they can find around the house!

Do any of you struggle with this? Have you lost your alone time during this quarantine? If you have I encourage you to seize it back. Don’t be afraid to be a little selfish at times because if we don’t take the time to recharge our own batteries, we won’t be able to help those we love. This might mean taking a walk by yourself or sequestering yourself in a room. It might even mean being able to sleep in while the kids watch a movie first thing in the morning, guilty of that one here! However it looks, just make it happen. You will feel so much better, I promise!

We might not have gone anywhere but we all got dressed up for Easter Sunday!

A little shift here, how are you guys spending time during this quarantine? Lately, the boys have enjoyed going on bear hunts. Around the area, people have started to place bears in their front windows for children to spot as they walk or drive the neighborhood. The boys pack their snacks and binoculars (we made them this week, so fun!) and away we go! It gets us out of the house and gives the boys something to look forward to. We were also given a basketball hoop from one of our neighbors so the boys have been practicing daily. Lets just say we are going to be a family of ballers by the end of this quarantine! So if anyone wants to take us on this summer, we’re game.

We have also tried to get a little more creative in our cooking. The boys enjoy getting messy as we cook together. For those coffee drinkers out there, have you tried Dalgona coffee or what I call Cloud coffee? It has quickly become one of our favorite coffees to make. I will put the recipe at the bottom if you want to try making it. It is so easy and so delicious. Oh another meal that we have absolutley loved is a potato hash. Ethan cooked this one and it was amazing. Just diced potatoes with bacon and a couple of eggs over easy. Super easy and tastes great!

Well I hope you all are doing okay. Just know that whether you are home with kids, spouse, or a roommate, make sure you are getting time for yourself. Being a little selfish is okay and needed during this time. You are doing great and this time will pass eventually but in the mean time, try making something new or get outside for some fresh air. We can’t wait to see you all again at the store soon! Have a great rest of your week!

I wanted to share a quick thank you to those of you who have been supporting all of us in the healthcare field during this time. We appreciate the masks, food and words of encouragement. You guys are amazing!

Dalgona Coffee

2 tbsp. granulated sugar
2 tbsp. instant coffee
2 tbsp. cold water
Ice, for serving
Milk, for serving

In a medium bowl, combine sugar, coffee, and water. Vigorously whisk until mixture turns silky smooth and shiny, then continue whisking until it thickens and holds its lofty, foamy shape.
Fill a glass most of the way full with ice and milk, then dollop and swirl the whipped coffee mixture on top, mixing before drinking, if desired.

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